Innate qualities we all have that love *shares, not provides
For each checkbox, ask the following:
- Do they make me feel…
- In your own words: if they don’t, why not?
- What is it about them or what they do that prevents this?
- Can I see this shortcoming improving over time?
- How much of the issue is with them and how much is with me?
- Do I prevent them from feeling this way?
- Do they make me feel safe?
- Do they value me and my well-being?
- If not, why?
- Do they just not care, or are there circumstances in their life that make doing this difficult?
- Is the issue with them, or am I doing something myself that would make it hard for them to help me feel that way?
- Am I doing anything that would make it difficult for them to feel safe around me?
- Do they make me feel happy?
- Do I relish and savor their company most of the time we are together?
- If not, why?
- How long can I enjoy their company before feeling drained by it?
- Is there anything they do or don’t do that makes this difficult?
- Is this something I can see improving with time, or would asking for more be too much?
- Is there anything I do that might make them unhappy?
- Do they make me feel nourished?
- Do I feel lighter/better about myself after each encounter with them?
- If not, why?
- What is it that I feel I am not getting?
- Is the issue with them not providing, or with me not willing to accept what they do provide?
- Am I helping them to feel nourished as well?
- Do they make me feel Inspired?
- Do I muse over them and pursue works in their honor?
- If not, why?
- What is it that I feel is missing, and is this something that could change over time?
- Is the issue with them blocking me from inspiration or something unresolved within me that no relationship can fix?
- Do I inspire them?
- Do they make me feel free?
- Do I feel empowered to pursue what I desire most in the world when I’m with them?
- If not, why?
- What is it about them that prevents this, and is it something they have control over?
- Is the issue truly with them or is there something within me that longs for Running away?
- Is there anything I am doing that would prevent them from feeling free?
- The only freedom is inner peace